We often get asked why we are choosing to get married. In a world where commitment can feel old-fashioned, we believe that marriage matters — not just as a celebration, but as a deliberate choice. This is our way of inviting you into something that is deeply personal to us both.
"The woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam; not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be beloved."
— Matthew Henry, 17th-century theologian
Instituted by God
We believe that God designed marriage to be a reflection of the way He loves us. God created a man in His own image. Out of the rib of the man, He created a woman that they might enjoy each other in fellowship, with the blessing to be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth (Genesis 1:28).
A Lifelong Covenant
“I (Name of Bride/Groom) take thee (Name of Bride/Groom), to be my wedded (wife/husband)”, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, til death do us part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my faith.”
We see marriage as not just a legal requirement or a social contract, but as a covenant we make with one another, where we leave our parents and join together as one. It is a promise to love, honor, and cherish each other through all of life's seasons, through the good times and the difficult times. It is a commitment to grow together, to support each other's dreams, and to face the challenges in life hand in hand. This covenant is intended for a lifetime, and we are excited and overjoyed to embark on this journey together.
"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—for we are members of his body. "
— Ephesians 5:25-30
Companionship and Commitment
We see marriage as a deep relationship built on mutual respect, trust, and love. It is a partnership where both individuals support and uplift each other, sharing in the joys and challenges of life together.
A Note on Love
We believe that love is more than an emotion; we see it as an attitude of the heart. God commands us to love one another, just as He first loved us. Our relationships (both with one another and with our dear friends) will bear lasting fruit if we make the choice to pattern this after God’s Love for us. The Bible teaches us in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 that love is patient and kind. It is not envious, boastful, proud, dishonouring, self-seeking, bad-tempered, calculating and delighting in evil. Love always protects, trusts, hopes and perseveres, and love never fails. In our marriage, we want to continue to grow deeper in love day by day and above all, we will point each other to love the Lord with all our hearts, all our souls and all our minds.
What we are asking of you
By being here, you are not just a guest — you are a witness of the covenant we are making with each other and with God. Your presence affirms the importance of this commitment and the community that surrounds us.
Please do continue to keep us in your prayers and continue to walk with us through this exciting journey!
Thank you for reading this. Thank you for being part of our story.
Alyson & Ben